Community around our table

This time of the year everything is running at maximum speed, our schedules, classes, jobs, and our appetites. I feel as if my own appetite for delicious food increases in proportion to the cold weather as the days get shorter and my desire for warmth gets bigger.

Warmth for me includes a busy kitchen and a house full of my roommates (and best friends) ready to be my taste-testers, critics, and supporters. As a Religious Studies major, I have been studying the intersection between food and faith for the last three years. I’ve always loved food (let’s be honest, who doesn’t), but after coming to Rhodes and learning about the problems and specifics of our food system in America, my vague interest in food became an academic pursuit. I was able to study things such as vegetarianism throughout the Christian church, the way that religious institutions use food in ministry programs, and most recently, I’ve had the opportunity to study life around the table.




A recent community dinner with some wonderful Rhodes professors: Dr. Thomas, Dr. Maddox, and Dr. White. (Anyone want to sponsor a GoPro, so we can take professional selfies?)


What a wonderful phrase, life around the table. This has been one of the most tangible ways that I have seen community acted out in our Ruka, as we have hosted friends, strangers, professors, and neighbors around our table. We have welcomed them into our kitchen, our dining room, even the coffee table in our living room, each time thrusting food into people’s hands, asking them over and over if they want more to drink, if they’ve had their fill of whatever we were serving that day.

There is nothing more satisfying than feeding someone. I’m not sure if that is the part of me that has always wanted to be an Italian grandmother, but to feed someone is to act out hospitality in a way that is tangible and accessible for the group of college kids that we are.

When my roommates wonder why I’m making another pie crust, baking another cake, or seeing how many vegetables I can use up in one recipe, what I have a hard time explaining is how giving food to them is a way I’m showing love, a way that I’m reaching out to them on the most basic of levels. To feed, and to have them enjoy it, is something that brings me joy; it feels as if I’m sharing with them something that goes beyond words. They get a glimpse into my day, aka why I chose to bake enchiladas/roast veggies/cook yet another serving of rice, or they might see that I’m stressed and resorted to chocolate for dinner. It’s a moment to stop in our busy days, and catch up, to discuss what’s going on in our lives and take care of our bodies at the same time. A way to share life.

So, here’s to many more moments of life lived around the table…or the kitchen counter, or the dining room, or the breakfast nook, or even the couch when all we want to do is curl up with a bowl of cereal and a friend to talk to. It is during the moments of sharing life in the kitchen, around the table, and in the everyday routine, that the hospitality of the Ruka is most visible to me, and I hope, to others as well.


Our recent s’mores night at the Ruka, Abbey and Sarah hard at work making some delicious noms. *Photo cred to Iris.

Much love,



Festivities at the Ruka

The Ruka has been a-buzz this last week with the Open House last weekend, our first Community Meal on Wednesday, and Lauren’s 21st birthday yesterday. It’s been so much fun to have so many people, from Caritas volunteers to Crew teammates to PA friends to Rhodes professors to best friends in and out of the house. There’s so much I can say about all the people we’ve had over and all the conversations we’ve had, but I want to focus on the Community Meal because it was such an exceptional experience.

As members of the Ruka, we have agreed, as part of our fellowship, to host one community meal per month, for which we’ll invite between 2-3 community members and/or Rhodes professors to our house for dinner.  For our very first community meal, we hosted Professor Gray, a religious studies professor at Rhodes, who has taught several of us in class, and Beverly Pfluger, one of Rhodes’s excellent Career Services counselors and the co-director of the Summer Service Program that Abbey and I were a part of this past summer. Abbey, Lauren, Claire, Iris, and I cleaned up the house and prepared Italian herb chicken and baked sweet potatoes before they arrived, and P.Gray and Beverly brought focaccia bread, salad, and the lively conversation. We had a great night, all gathered around our circular table in the dining room, learning how we all wound up at Rhodes, reminiscing on Search and Life classes with P.Gray freshman year, and listening to Beverly’s wise advice on how to live together in a community. (She recommends focusing on the positives and reminding ourselves why we love each other, rather than obsessing about the negatives (e.g. So-and-So hasn’t washed her dishes again!). We all found this to be rather timely advice.)

And that brings me to my final thought for the week. It’s not always easy living with good friends. Already, we’ve experienced frustration with one another. I’ve harbored resentment towards others, like Beverly was alluding to, and kept my feelings bottled up inside when I really just needed to let someone know how I felt. And that’s not how it should be. Walking on eggshells around delicate subjects isn’t fun for anyone, and just because we’re close friends, doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t tell one another how we truly feel for fear of hurting someone’s feelings. I’ve learned that I need to be more open to my sharing my own feelings and listening to others’ as well because loving one another and listening well to one another is what community is all about, even through difficult conversations.


First Open House

After all the hard work (and fun) that was needed to establish the expectations of our fellowship, move in to our lovely house, and settle into our hectic semester schedules, we have finally arrived at this day: the day of our first open house, the day when we officially welcome the community into our home.  We’re all excited!  As the first Ruka residents in two years, one of our goals, this year, is to increase publicity and awareness about the Ruka so that we can maximize the impact of our house, as a place where ALL Rhodes students and members of the Memphis community feel welcome.  The invites have been sent, the compost started, the house cleaned, the cookies and lemonade purchased.  Now, we’re simply awaiting the guests.  See one of our many invitations below.  More pictures of the open house to come!

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Meal with Leslie

While we were extremely sad to no longer have Noel leading Peacemakers, a few weeks ago we were able to have a great dinner with the new leader of Peacemakers, Leslie  Barker. It was a great opportunity to sit down and get to know each other better since some of us see her twice a week! Starting the conversation about Peacemakers in general (we could probably go on about the kids for hours), we were able to learn more about Leslie, how she became so interested in theater, her involvement in Arts Memphis, and what direction they envision for the Peacemakers program. We were able to learn more specifically about Theater Memphis and Leslie’s role there. Also, we were able to give her some of our thoughts and ideas for our participation for the rest of the semester – including discussing a day to plant with the Peacemakers and the logistics for bringing the Peacemakers to rites to play this weekend! The dinner was equally enjoyable and productive, and we are all looking forward to a fun finish to the semester at Peacemakers!


Making the Most of Relationships

Last week we had the privilege of hosting Dr. Bette Ackerman for dinner and what an evening it was! As we are quickly coming to the end of another hectic semester, the last for Paula, Emily and I, I have been given the opportunity WAY too many times to think about the end of my college career that is rapidly approaching. And though it often seems like it will be such a relief to be rid of homework, papers, intense deadlines and finals, I was reminded during the evening with Dr. Ackerman of many of the other things that aren’t necessarily so bad. Be warned now: this post will likely be a bit on the sappy side.
The meal itself was one of my favorites that we have prepared for a community meal with so many fresh vegetables now that spring has FINALLY sprung, but it was also enjoyable for the conversation. Oh, and the brownies. As Dr. Ackerman reminded us—dessert is never worth skipping! We spent the meal discussing everything from our experiences in the Ruka and at Caritas, our DI projects, our mutual love and appreciation for the one and only Professor McNary-Zak, to Professor Ackerman’s adventures as dean of students, some of the major disconnects between Rhodes, students, faculty and administration and all the growth she’s seen in Memphis during her time here. The night was filled with much laughter and shared stories (Professor Ackerman had actually traveled to the vineyards near where Emily and Allison had studied abroad in Italy), but ultimately concluded with what it means to make the most of our college education.
I suppose it was this final aspect that got me thinking about my life at Rhodes. Not necessarily the education part, though that has been worthwhile too I suppose it its own way. When talking to Dr. Ackerman, I realized all the things that came to mind weren’t papers or projects or even things I’ve done (we all know the laundry list Rhodes kids can rattle off about their resumes). The highlights and meaningful events were all rooted in an experience with people or a specific person. That has included everything from relationships with professors who seemed so big and scary way back when but now some of whom are among the more caring people I know. So many of them are genuinely invested in the interests and success of their students. While, I can’t claim to be close with everyone I’ve ever taken a class from, and yes there are those I’d rather just forget, but there are also those that I consider to be such incredible resources and mentors in some capacity.
Outside of school I think about my teammates and roommates—the two groups of people I likely have had the most hate and love for over the years and how much I have learned from so many of them. Of course there are moments inextricably tied with both of these groups, but outside of some big games, or trips or meals, in both cases it is the collection of all the time I was forced to spend with these people and the inevitably resulted in something ridiculous, as well as my best friends, that has been so meaningful.
Furthermore, there are the relationships with the city of Memphis, Caritas, Onie, Noel and all the kids there. We talked at length with Dr. Ackerman about the city of Memphis, its reputation and all the great things we’ve found here. We also go to pick her brain for some new restaurant ideas etc. But this city was not a place I was excited about as a freshman. I missed my South Carolina comfort zone dearly. And though sometimes I still wish some mountains and beaches were closer, I have become both proud and defensive of the city of Memphis. I think that is a direct result of my living off campus and experiencing so many of the things this city has to offer with my roommates and through the Ruka. Caritas has become a place of comfort that can cheer me up on any stressful day, and I look to Onie and Noel as mentors on a regular basis.
I know this blog post was supposed to be about dinner, so even though I doubt I have done the evening justice, I think I owe a thank you to Dr. Ackerman for making me think beyond just the piles of work that lay ahead over these last few weeks to all the people I’ve met and will get to hang out with during that time instead. The whole “second semester senior year is a breeze” thing may not exactly be true, but its professors like Drs. Ackerman and McNary –Zak who have taught me how to take time to be reflective and reminded to do so in the chaos that is Rhodes. So instead of complaining or groaning when asked about being a senior over these next few weeks, I instead will explain how much I am looking forward to countless hours with my roommates (maybe a few will be studying, most will likely be baking), soccer banquets and dinners, a few plays at Caritas/Brewster and hanging out in the city that has become my second home.


Visit With Another Intentional Community

We’ve been incredibly busy over the last few months. As we were getting back into the swing of things, the semester has flown by. Although things have been hectic at times, we were really excited to have the opportunity to visit another intentional community. In January we drove to Conway, Arkansas and visited the Bonhoeffer House at Hendrix College. We started off the day bright and early at 7:30 and embarked on a hilarious car ride with Professor McNary-Zak. When we got to Hendrix we met Professor Williamson, their faculty advisor, as well as current and past Bonhoeffer House members. We took turns explaining each of our intentional communities (to the best of our ability) and then asked questions and discussed the differences in our versions of intentional living. The Bonhoeffer House is an intentionally Christian community, which entails prayer, devotional study, reflection, hospitality, and service. We were able to discuss in-depth the core values of our communities and what intentional living means in terms of our liberal arts education. We also talked about what a typical week looks like for both of our communities, and both found aspects of the each other’s practices appealing. While they really liked the idea of intentional buddies and professor dinners we thought that keeping a journal could be particularly beneficial for us and our reflections. Regardless of our differences, it was very encouraging to see other students engaging in intentional living during their college experience.


Additionally, meeting with multiple generations of the Bonhoeffer group was enlightening for us as it allowed us to see how their program, which has been around since 2007, has grown and transformed over time. As the Ruka is relatively new, it was interesting to see how dynamic their communities have been and how each year is different. After we had lunch and continued conversation, we walked across campus to the current living space in on campus apartments. Unlike Rhodes, most of Hendrix’s students live on campus all four years and thus integrating intentional community and on campus living is an added obstacle and opportunity. We spent time in their community space discussing our college lives and comparing both Rhodes with Hendrix and Memphis with Conway. At the end of the day we had a quick wrap up and reflection before driving back to Memphis. Overall it was a great experience for us to engage with other students participating in similar programs at another school. We hope to continue the dialogue between our two communities and hope one day the Bonhoeffer House can visit the Ruka!


Farm to Table Conference



On Tuesday Feb 12th Rhodes was a partner and host of the Farm to Table Conference. Emily and I were able to squeeze a couple of the talks into our academic schedule. The conference was sponsored by with local organizations and companies whose missions are sustainable food practices and hosted by the Rhodes Environmental Studies/Sciences and anthropology departments. We were really excited to participate in the conference given out interests in both sustainable living and investment in the greater Memphis community. At the lunch time panel focused on “Sustainable Food and the Future of Memphis” we were introduced to local professionals and farmers committed to furthering the green movement in Memphis. More specifically, the panelists included representatives from Ghost River Brewing, Grow Memphis, South Memphis Farmer’s Market and Green Girl Produce. Each person shared their company’s/organization’s contribution to the future self-reliant food culture in Memphis. Each panelist discussed the importance of local investment, the rich resources available in Memphis, as well as the value of collaboration and solidarity within this food network. The panelists also shared the specific goals of their organization and the role they have each played in the movement. They also briefly touched on how others can get involved.

Additionally, Emily attended a session where current research on the South Memphis farmer’s market was shared. Students from the University of Memphis had surveyed shoppers and presented their findings informing the community about who was using the market as well as suggestions/possibilities on how to reach a broader group, and how to expand the market to more efficiently meet community needs. Other sessions of the day included talks on growing practices in the Mid-South geared toward urban farming on both large and small scales. These included the titles “Top 10 Fruit Varieties that Work in the Mid-South” and “Best Practices: Farming in the Mid-South.” Other sessions focused on the business side of farming and included topics such as “High Value Markets for Maximizing Farm Profits” and “Establishing a Food Hub in Memphis to Increase Market Opportunities for Local Producers.” Additional topics included fun interest sessions on “ The Bee-ginners guide to Bee Keeping” and “Experiences Eating Local: Food Writing in the South.”

We were really glad to have gotten to participate, despite being unable to attend all the sessions (having to be students can really be a drag). It was particularly encouraging to hear how widespread the green movement is in Memphis, exciting to learn about further opportunities to become involved, interesting to discover new places/businesses to explore and support as part of this locally driven movement.  We even took away a few tips as we begin thinking about our spring garden here at the Ruka.

On that note, Lucy and Ethel have begun laying eggs again! They may have attempted an escape (and by that Lucy definitely took a field trip out of the coop), but all is back to normal (whatever that means) this week. Last Thursday was also the first spring semester production by the Peacemakers. We were glad to support them on stage and we are looking forward to our spring events with them. In other Ruka news, we are currently conducting interviews for our individual research projects. Check back in soon for more updates!



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